I am the thing I was taught to hate

My brother tells me a joke that he and one of the pastor's kids laugh about at youth group. "Let's go get Christian t-shirts from Mardel’s and drink beer like the New Life Christians! Hahahahaha!" I don't laugh. I feel the gut punch. Pause. "Do you know anyone from New Life Church? Have you ever met … Continue reading I am the thing I was taught to hate

Poem: Outside

The sun is shining over the flowers my grandfather planted. They're still growing, long after he died in 1995. One of my goals for 2016 is to write a new spoken word poem every month. Here’s February’s poem. We can breathe again, out here in the open.Drink in lemonade sunlightbecause each one of us has … Continue reading Poem: Outside

How gender roles affect discussion groups in churches

So I moved back to my hometown and I started going back to my very first church. I haven’t gone there since I was 10 years old, and there’s such a blending of nostalgia and the now, it’s… wonderful. I feel safe in this place, so old and new all at once, safe to process … Continue reading How gender roles affect discussion groups in churches

The UnBoxing Project: Being an angel with a shotgun

Get out your guns, battle's begun, are you a saint, or a sinner? If love's a fight, then I shall die, with my heart on a trigger.  - The Cab, Angel with a Shotgun (Nightcore remix) These are the stories they told me. "Eleanor, my best friend's parents told her she can't drive the car … Continue reading The UnBoxing Project: Being an angel with a shotgun