Internalization, boundaries, and me

Communication is amazing, when it actually happens. It's cliche, but both sides have to be willing to exchange and receive information. I'm trying to talk to my parents again. This is a choice I have made, not out of obligation. I'm told that I'm naïve, but there's this little flicker of optimism inside me that refuses to … Continue reading Internalization, boundaries, and me

You don’t have to look: Revisiting how we tell the Easter story

I have problems with Easter. My church attendance has been irregular since I left fundamentalism, which I've been told is normal for people who have suffered spiritual abuse. This year, I tried to go to church on Easter Sunday. I drove to the parking lot. Panic rose in my stomach until I thought I might … Continue reading You don’t have to look: Revisiting how we tell the Easter story

Deprogramming: documentaries and movies about cults and Christian subculture

Last week we finished the UnBoxing Project series. Some of my readers asked what life was like after we left, how we handled it. My friends and I went through a period of deprogramming, which is ongoing. We'd been told what to think, what is good and what is evil, and then we found we'd been lied … Continue reading Deprogramming: documentaries and movies about cults and Christian subculture

The UnBoxing Project: Homeschool, the perfect hiding place

I met Shelby while working for the student newspaper, and she mentioned that the homeschooling population seemed to be understudied in academic literature. Here is her perspective. I, personally, have come into contact with a handful of homeschooling experiences in my lifetime. I had three friends who had been homeschooled, two of whom entered semi-public … Continue reading The UnBoxing Project: Homeschool, the perfect hiding place

The UnBoxing Project: Gissel’s story

In July 2014, Ashley came over to my apartment to visit one Saturday morning. Then Ashley got a text message from Gissel, one of her friends from the Pentecostal church she'd left six months ago. "Hey, can you come pick me up? My dad kinda went crazy and kicked me out. I dont have anywhere … Continue reading The UnBoxing Project: Gissel’s story